"You shouldn't have to educate your therapist about poly, kink, queer, or gender non-conforming issues."

"You shouldn't have to educate your therapist about poly, kink, queer, or gender non-conforming issues."

I’m a licensed counseling psychologist at UC Berkeley, founder and co-chair of the American Psychological Association Division 44 Consensual Non-monogamy Task Force, and offer therapy and consultation services in the San Francisco Bay Area.

As a leader of the non-monogamies movement, I am working to promote the legitimacy of consensual non-monogamy (CNM) at the highest levels of psychology and his work has been featured in media outlets such as Vogue, Goop, and Psychology Today. In addition to spearheading efforts to develop the first ever national professional psychology organization dedicated to addressing CNM issues, I am working with colleagues to create multiple CNM-related resources, including suggested language for assessing relationship style on demographic forms, a CNM-inclusive clinical practices tool, an informational brochure for therapists, and a blog post about what therapists need to know about consensual non-monogamy. I also have multiple peer-reviewed publications, including the largest study to date addressing therapy practices with individuals engaged in consensual non-monogamy. In addition to helping oversee the CNM Task Force’s 85 volunteers and 12 Initiatives, I am currently writing empirically-informed practice recommendations for therapists working with CNM clients. I was also named Advisor to the Kinsey Institute’s Kenneth R. Haslam Collection on Polyamory.

I specialize in providing working with alternative relationships and lifestyles, diverse sexualities, couples/partners, and infidelity, and predominantly work with the polyamory/CNM, kink, TGNC/NB, and LGBQIA communities.